I felt inspired to write yet again today and so I
did! I think that this needed to be said
in order to clarify what I wrote yesterday.
“Don’t be Judgmental”, and “learn to be tolerant”, seem
to be common phrases/themes we hear or see in our culture. First of all, our understanding of both of
these things is severely skewed. To
begin with, tolerance is gravely misunderstood in our culture. Tolerance in a sense has become the god of
this generation. Tolerance DOES NOT MEAN
I have to keep my mouth shut and keep from commenting when I disagree with
someone. Tolerance DOES NOT MEAN I have
to simply accept beliefs and lifestyles different than my own. Tolerance DOES NOT MEAN everyone is free to
believe in whatever they want to choose their own truth. As my friend Chris Stefanick says in his talk
on moral relativism, “you have to DISAGREE with something before you start
TOLERATING it.” Tolerance means I simply
put up with something I don’t like. I
can still LOVE someone and disagree with them.
To say that homosexual actions, contraception, abortion and voting for
Obama is wrong is NOT INTOLERANT! To say that there is such a thing as absolute
truth and that one religion is more right than another is NOT INTOLERANT! To have moral convictions and stick by them
is NOT INTOLERANT! For example, most
people in my family do not believe a lot of the same things I do. They are wrong in their beliefs, period. Does that mean I love them less or we can’t
get along? No! Can we have intelligent dialogue and conversation? Yes!
Are they 100% wrong? No! Are there a lot of things they get right? Yes!
Do I still respect them and see good in them? Yes!
Believing that someone is wrong does not mean you are intolerant nor
does it mean you hate them.
Secondly, one of the most common things I hear is, “We
shouldn’t judge people.” That is
absolutely correct! We should not judge
people, only God can judge people.
However, what people mean by “not judging others” is not what Jesus
meant by this. For example in today’s
culture to go up to a friend or family member and say, “I don’t think you
should be having sex outside of marriage”, or “you shouldn’t be getting drunk
every weekend” would elicit a response like, “don’t judge me, I’m a good person
even if I do those things, who are you to tell me what to do?” That my friends is not judgmental. That is actually doing our Christian duty of
loving our neighbor. That is showing
care and concern for another. We
actually are called to judge actions. We
can’t judge PEOPLE, but we can judge ACTIONS!
What is the difference? Well
judging actions is calling someone out and telling them what they are doing or
have done is wrong. Judging people
implies that you assume the state of their soul. To tell someone they are going to hell
because of what they are doing is judgmental.
To tell them something is sinful is not judgmental; it is actually
loving and scriptural.
“‘If your brother*
sins [against you], go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he
listens to you, you have won over your brother.
If he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, so that
‘every fact may be established on the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If
he refuses to listen to them, tell the church.
If he refuses to listen even to the church, then treat him as you would
a Gentile or a tax collector.” (Matthew 18:15-17)
As Pope St. Felix
III said, "Not to oppose error is to approve it; and not to defend truth
is to suppress it; and indeed to neglect to confound evil men, when we can do
it, is no less a sin than to encourage them." When someone corrects me for the way I am
acting or for what I am doing, I don’t see it as judgmental. I actually often take some time to think about
it and take it to prayer. More often
than not I realize that the person who provided the criticism is correct and I
am thankful for that. Why? Well, because I can then use what I
have learned or discovered through the situation to grow in virtue and
holiness.
The mentality behind these two concepts is truly ruining
our culture and causing serious moral degradation in society. No one wants to call anything evil or sinful
anymore. It seems like the only sin in
society anymore is having moral convictions and telling someone they are
wrong. As Pope Benedict said before he
became pope, “We are moving toward a dictatorship of relativism which does
not recognize anything as for certain and which has as its highest goal one's
own ego and one's own desires.” This is
a scary thought. I think we can all
agree that Hitler was an evil guy and what he did was pretty messed up. However, I seriously wonder that if Hitler
was alive today and committing the same evils if we would think they were
wrong. We would honestly try and stop
him? I seriously question the fact that
we would. Someone would surely say that
we were being “intolerant” or “judgmental” if we disagreed with him.
Here is the problem, people see Christians as judgmental
and intolerant because they haven’t been given the whole message. They simply see Christianity as a list of
rules. Christianity is not simply a
belief system; it is a RELATIONSHIP with a living God. The best part about it is that when we are
wrong about something, or someone calls us out on a sinful action, is that
there is mercy and forgiveness available.
The mercy of Christ is infinite.
He desires nothing more than for us to recognize our faults and
imperfections so that he can forgive us and begin to heal us and make us whole
again! Today's Gospel from Luke says it well:
"The tax collectors and sinners were all drawing near to listen to Jesus,
but the Pharisees and scribes began to complain, saying,
"This man welcomes sinners and eats with them."
So Jesus addressed this parable to them.
"What man among you having a hundred sheep and losing one of them
would not leave the ninety-nine in the desert
and go after the lost one until he finds it?
And when he does find it,
he sets it on his shoulders with great joy
and, upon his arrival home,
he calls together his friends and neighbors and says to them,
'Rejoice with me because I have found my lost sheep.'
I tell you, in just the same way
there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents
than over ninety-nine righteous people
who have no need of repentance."
Jesus was not “tolerant” in the
way today’s liberal leftist are want everyone to me. He was and is tolerant in the way that he
loves us in spite of our sin and weaknesses and calls us to become who we are
meant to be. There is hope, joy, and
love in Christianity. Are there
Christians who can be judgmental and truly intolerant? Absolutely, but most often than not the
culture simply tells us we are behaving that way, when in fact we are being
loving.
In conclusion, it is because I love my family and friends
that I will continue to call a spade a spade.
I will continue to refer to things as immoral and sinful when they
are. If you disagree with me, fine, but
please be TOLERANT yourselves and accept the fact that I am simply preaching
what I have come to discover as the truth and I will not back down from it
simply because it offends someone. If it
offends you and you disagree then let us TOLERATE one another so we can go
lovingly enjoy a beer or a good glass of whiskey as we laugh and discuss those
things we can agree on! After all once I have said my piece, I can’t change
your heart or mind. I’ll leave that one
to the Holy Spirit and pray for you in the quiet recess of my own heart while we enjoy
that beer or whiskey together!